Hello, friends! It’s me, My Little Yoni, your trusty superhero here to talk about something super important: self-touch. Yep, today we’re diving into the wonderful world of self-pleasure and why it’s a key part of understanding and loving your body. I’ll keep it fun, educational, and simple so you can take this info and use it for yourself, and as always, for education inside the home.

Why Self-Pleasure Matters

Self-touch, also known as self-pleasure, is a natural and healthy way to connect with your body. It’s about learning what feels good, exploring sensations, and building a positive relationship with yourself. The most common term is ma3turbation, but not only is that word censored online, it often carries a lot of baggage for many adults. The term self-touch or self-pleasure feels lighter and more accurate. 

Fun fact: Did you know self-pleasure helps release feel-good hormones like dopamine and oxytocin? These little chemicals can lift your mood, ease stress, and even help you sleep better. So, it’s not just fun—it’s science!

Breaking the Stigma

Talking about self-touch can feel awkward because, let’s face it, it’s a topic that’s been shushed for centuries. But here’s the deal: there’s no shame in exploring your body. Knowing yourself better can help you set boundaries, communicate your needs in relationships, and boost your confidence. That’s a superpower worth unlocking, yes?

Teaching the Next Generation

For parents, this might sound like a tricky topic to tackle with kids, but here’s a tip: keep it simple and age-appropriate. Most kids will naturally start exploring their bodies and you might even see them rubbing their genitals or walk into the living room to see them humping a cushion. Or they might ask questions about genitals, eg ‘private parts.’ Rather than ignoring the topic or worse,  being shaming or fearful towards your kids, you can use this natural phase of development to begin having conversations. 

When kids are young, you can explain that touching their own body is natural but should be done in private. As they grow older, you can introduce the idea of self-pleasure as part of understanding their bodies and taking care of themselves. No need to overcomplicate it—just share the facts with kindness and honesty.

A Few Friendly Reminders

Normalize Curiosity: Let them know it’s normal to be curious about their body. Use simple language like, “It’s great to learn about how your body works!” “It feels good to touch your body.” 

Teach Privacy: Explain that touching their own body is something they can explore in private, like in their bedroom or the bathroom. Boundaries are important. Your kids should know it’s ok to touch their own bodies in private but that they can’t touch their private parts in school or in public. And that no one else should be touching their bodies. Their body belongs to them!

Introduce Self-Love: Encourage kids to appreciate their unique qualities. You might say, “Your body is amazing and deserves to be treated with kindness.”

Model Positivity: When kids see you talk about bodies and self-love confidently, they’ll follow your lead. Keep it upbeat and honest!

As a s3x ed superhero, I understand the stigma we must overcome to create positive relationships with our bodies. I invite you to commit to making pleasure a priority, loving your body, and educating others about the topic. And it's easier to start young, that's why I wrote this book that you can gift to yourself or the families in your life: Yoni Magic: What's the 'M' Word?

Self-pleasure isn’t just about the physical. It’s about building a stronger connection with yourself, feeling empowered in your body, and embracing the amazing person you are. So go ahead, give yourself a little love… and pave the way for the next generation so that they can grow up with safety and confidence, free of shame and fear.